The Lady in Red: What you aren’t Doing that you Should Be.
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I decided to start with this two part series leading into Valentine’s Day. This article we’ll look at things you should be doing outside of holidays like Valentine’s Day if you want to keep her around, but next article I will give some input on how to melt her heart with your Valentine’s Day Plan (right now I am interviewing my friends and getting some pretty good ideas to throw at you guys next month!).
In response to several inquiries, this article is directed towards someone in a relationship looking to be an awesome boyfriend. But even if you’re not currently dating, you can benefit from this advice in future relationships.
I think I speak for all girls when I say there are things you could, and probably should, be doing that 99% of men don’t do. And if you are doing it then I’m sure your girl is rubbing it in all of her friend’s faces (yes women brag to their friends). Do you want to be the guy that your girl brags about or the guy your girl complains about?!
So listen up:
I’m going to go ahead and pat my older brother on the back here because he actually sparked this idea in my mind.
I stopped by his house the other day and I walked into his kitchen and there was a beautiful bouquet of pink roses on the counter. I curiously asked who the flowers were from and what they were for and my brother’s wife replied-“Oh, your brother got them for me for no reason.” I was shocked! How nice!
Side rant: flowers, at any time, are the perfect surprise and will always be well received.
But then I got to thinking… he should do that for his wife, right? She comes home every day from work and makes him a wonderful dinner, among countless other things. And then his little gesture, so simple, showed his undivided appreciation for her and what she does for him. How could something so simple mean so much?
Well, I decided to share this advice with all of you.
I know we all just got done with Christmas/New Year and I am sure you spoiled your girlfriend or special women in your life, but that’s not what I am talking about. It’s the unexpected thought or gift that means so much more. If my guy did something for me or got me something randomly and there was no holiday or reason for it, he just got it because he was thinking about me, that would be so much more special to me. It shows you care enough to make an effort without being told to.
I know that girl’s minds work a little differently than guys.
I will pick up little things for my boyfriend all of the time if I think he would like it or needs it and I do this because I want to. It says I am thinking about you and wanted to do something nice. Now why is this so dang hard for you men to reciprocate? It also doesn’t have to be expensive or cost any money. You could write a little post-it saying something nice and that would be enough. Every girl wants to feel special and you should be doing that for her if she means something to you. Hey, here’s a free winner — send her a text randomly during the day and let her know you are thinking about her.
My last point is loosen up a bit and don’t let pride cause selfishness.
It doesn’t matter if YOU don’t like to do that, or if YOU aren’t that type of guy, or it YOU think it’s stupid. That’s selfish, guys, and it makes you look like a jerk. YOU need to think about what would make the other person happy and what the other person likes too. It’s not all about YOU! Relationship is about compromise and sometimes you have to do things you don’t like or don’t want to, but you should anyways for the person you’re supposed to care about.
For those guys that are starting a new relationship or who are looking for my best advice is to treat her right from the beginning.
Don’t stop! Where most guys go wrong is they spoil their girlfriends in the first year and then just stop. What’s worst is on our end we think you are this amazing guy and start EXPECTING you to keep doing these wonderful things. It ends up being a letdown because you just up and stop doing those things. So KEEP doing them!
If you have a good girl on your arm let her know and don’t let her think for a second that you don’t know that 😉
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