Lady in Red: Navigating Through The Craziness That Is Valentine’s Day…
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This is my second part series on how to keep your girl. This time we are talking about how to make her feel special, so you get to be a hero on Valentine’s day.
Now I am sure every guy will put up the argument that this is a dumb holiday, but like I said from my last article, it doesn’t matter that you think it’s dumb it matter what she thinks. You don’t want to be THAT guy that doesn’t get or do anything for your girl on Valentine ’s Day. I’ll have to say that I have actually had that happen to me one too many times and man does it suck to be the girl that doesn’t get anything and you have to see all of the crap the other girls are posting on Facebook and Twitter. So please don’t make your girl feel like that, it’s not a good look for you trust me.
I’ve also had guys go ALL out putting rose peddles all over my room with 2 dozen roses with a teddy bear and an expensive dinner… and I would say that’s a little over kill.
So I wanted to give you guys some ideas of what to do or what not to do to make your girl’s Valentine’s Day special:
first rule is to make it personalized so it shows you put some thought into it.
Candy - I’m gonna say no, unless she has something specific she is obsessed with. Instead, make chocolate covered strawberries to go for romantic (buy melting chocolate, microwave it, dip strawberries… monkeys can do this).
Flowers - YES YES YES! This is a must. Even if she says not to do it, do it anyways (it’s a secret test).
Stuffed animals - definitely NO. Only exception is build a bear because you can make it more personal.
Jewelry - don’t ever ask a girl to marry you on Valentine’s Day — just sayin’. But jewelry is a nice gesture. I personally think jewelry should be more for your anniversary, so it means more. My exception is if she likes Pandora and you could get her a charm for her bracket or do something small.
This is where you need to feel out what type of girl you are dating. What is she into or what does she like. Here are some examples:
Designer girl- Tiffany’s you can’t go wrong with or something fancy. Definitely do a fancy dinner. She wants something she can show off to her friends and family so make it flashy and big.
Chill girl– plan a night in and cook her dinner or cook together. My friend’s boyfriend cooked her dinner one Valentine’s Day and pulled up a fake lit fire place on his computer and we all thought it was adorable. Do something simple but romantic and you will melt her heart.
I always enjoy going to do things more than getting a gift so here are some ideas of things you can do:
- Taking her out to dinner and planning it yourself (YOU plan it not her!)
- Take her to a comedy club — always fun!
- Wine tasting or brewery
- Take a class of some kind together — cooking class or maybe a workout class (anything that she has been dying to try?)
It’s the thought that counts — so put some thought into it to show you care.
My friend’s boyfriend gave her a card and in it he planned out a weekend getaway and you could tell he put some thought into planning everything out with places to see, things to do, and places to eat. It was very cute!
Sitting down and just writing how you feel is an amazing gift and just takes time. Maybe 14 things you love about her? Or something along those lines. Framing and typing it out shows you tried a little. Or picking out a really nice card and writing something in it is enough.
This isn’t hard guys. I just gave you a TON of examples so think about it and put these plans into action.
Don’t be a dead beat boyfriend on Valentine’s Day. You can thank me now.
The Lady in Red