DAY 12: Build Your Team of Friends, You’re Going to Need Them
Think: the Justice League… just more Legendary.
A very important part of your collegiate career is the network of friends you can manage to cultivate.
We know this to be true — and assuming you already have a select crew, we put together a few tips to foster said relationships:
Make a List
Check it twice… figure out who’s deceptively evil or genuinely awesome…
SEE ALSO: Become a Legend — Tip 4: Choose your Friends Wisely
Per the article above, most people have an ‘inner circle’ of friends, typically not larger than 5. It’s important to cover a lot of ground and personalities with this group, and if you don’t have all the arch-types listed in that article, it’s time to start recruiting (hint: some friends can play multiple roles).
But your network of ‘friends’ extends much further — as in, more than acquaintances and someone whose company you enjoy, but probably not someone you would trust with a secret or a big decision. Maybe 15, 25, or more fall in this category for you? The only way you’ll know for sure is to make a list. This doesn’t have to be public or taped on your wall, but will be very valuable and useful to create.
Write one up and store it away in a journal or an electronic file.
And don’t worry if you’re list is shorter than you thought it would be — it’s supposed to be selective, right? These are people that make you happy and push you to be a better version of you; whether it’s intellectually, academically, physically, or emotionally. Not to mention, this will be an on-going list for your entire life; it will grow and shrink as you travel through different life-stages.
Bottom line: If someone made your list, make an effort to communicate with them on a weekly, bi-monthly, or at least monthly basis. These relationships are invaluable to your success, health, and wellness.
Be Proactive; Plan, Plan, Plan
Make it a point to plan outings with your friends, because friendships and relationships take work. You want this to be under your control, as opposed to leaving it in the air and potentially letting an important rapport with someone fade away.
Use your list from the step above, and look into these very simple, but meaningful, activities:
- Grabbing a cup of coffee (my favorite, and honestly the easiest just to catch up)
- Going out to lunch (also can help you try new places to increase your prowess of the area)
- Going to a sporting event (the sky is the limit here, double benefit is rocking school spirit)
- Study Session (sometimes it’s hard to buckle down for this solo, invite a friend so you’re not the only one doing it)
- Grabbing a drink, for those of legal age (very relaxing forum for small talk)
- Heading to the gym (workout buddies help hold you accountable)
- Going for a run or bike ride
You get the idea; make an effort so they don’t have to.
Try to be Interested, not Interesting
“You can make more friends in two months
by becoming more interested in other people
than you can in two years
by trying to get people interested in you.“
- Dale Carnegie
Over the next month, be on the lookout for your new challenge every day — you can also follow the updated series of posts here.
Also, be sure to print out and hang up your Challenge Checklist so you can keep track. You’ll get a sneak peak at what’s to come, but can get further details with the post associated with each day.
Remember, legends are constantly improving themselves, so it’s up to you to work hard in accomplishing each daily task to help you become the legend on your campus.
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